As we get comfortable across cities and jobs, we see a lot of people moving from their homes to towns and cities that have major colleges and universities, as well as companies.
It’s exhilarating to finally live on your own and have the kind of freedom you never did before. But are you ready for the responsibility that comes with it?
Here are a few tips to help you adjust better to life in a new city:
1. Keep your friends close:
It is very important not to undermine the presence of a supporting friend. Try and get to know your colleagues and friends you can bank on, and preferably go to towns where you have friends from before the moving. It’s good to have someone to talk to.
2. Keep the pantry stocked:
The first thing that goes for a toss as people start to live on their own is food and nutrition. Don’t shy from calling your mom and ask the basic food needed to maintain a basic kitchen. Even if you have a provision for meals like tiffin or you live in a hostel, stock up on healthy and filling snacks. Lack of nutrition is linked to fatigue and mood problems.
3. Timetable for the chores:
It is important to get all your chores done on time, because it could mean defaulting bills, and many other disruptions. Make a simple timetable for all the chores and pencil in when the bills are due. If you have a room partner, you could always split the tasks.
4. Scan the environment:
Make sure you canvas your area for all the major needs like general store, police station, clinics, hospitals, restaurants, medical stores and recreational places. Being stuck in the house not knowing your way about can be a very annoying experience.
5. Connecting back home:
A part of healthy adjusting is the ability to keep in touch in a good way. Call friends and family in your home town from time to time sharing your efforts at settling. It’s a good validation of your struggles and gives you some perspective.
6. Crisis contacts:
Paste a list of crisis contacts onto your fridge, in your wallet and in your phone. When some medical or other emergency happens, you or the person who finds you, may not want to scratch your heads finding whom to contact. This could be a friend, neighbor or a relative.
It may seem old-fashioned but since neighbors live closest to you, it’s best to know them a little. Make them some food or give them some small gifts. If they have children, ask about them. You will be surprised how much they’d take care of you if you take some efforts.
8. Expect some loneliness:
All said and done, life has changed for you. It’s okay to feel lonely. Don’t deny the feeling. Instead, stay with it. You’ll take some time and get better at handling it.
9. But deal with it:
Just because it happens, does not mean it has to keep you in a bad place. If you aren’t feeling better and still feeling homesick, talk to someone who would understand. A counselor may be able to help.
10. Hobby or cause:
There might be some level of emptiness because you are undergoing a major change. Take to a social cause, a sport or a hobby to keep your mind and body occupied.